Every alcoholic’s story is different. Some started drinking out of fun, some did to impress friends, while some took to drinking to cope with trauma. As it is socially acceptable to drink, alcoholism does not create a furor until it starts ruining families and professions. Until then, people think it’s fine to drink.
Feeling bad about your alcoholism
Many alcoholics experience guilt, shame, or regret for their alcohol use and the way they behave under its influence. These are negative emotions. They create negative and hampering energies. They can hinder your recovery process if you continue to harbor these emotions within you during an AA meeting in Nebraska.
However, it is also seen that these negative emotions may make a person do something about their alcoholism. They may attend a meeting because they are guilty of hurting their family in an inebriated state. They wish to change. Or they may feel shameful about their alcoholism and want to quit.
So, at times, the negative emotions may trigger a positive behavior.
When you feel guilty about your alcoholism it shows you are accepting your mistake. You realize making alcohol an integral part of your life was not a wise decision.
Many people feel guilty and join local AA meetings. However, you mustn’t linger on with the guilt feelings. You must move on. Now you are doing the right thing – putting in efforts to quit drinking. So, stop feeling guilty. Guilt may keep you chained to the past. Look forward to a happy and successful sober life.
Some people think guilt and shame are the same. Not so. Shame is a feeling when you think bad about who you are. You have an image of yourselves of how you should have been, but you are not. So you feel shameful.
Shame can be similar to guilt, but shame is more about believing that you, as a person, are bad. On the other hand, guilt is for what you have done.
Shame can lower a person’s self-esteem tremendously. It can make them believe they are good for nothing.
People who feel shameful about being an alcoholic may use phrases like “how foolish of me,” “pity on me,” “silly of me,” “I don’t deserve,” and so on.
Many alcoholics are unable to open up in AA meetings due to shame. They believe they are not worthy of a good life. It’s a deep feeling and sometimes needs therapy to come out of it.
Many alcoholics feel anger brewing inside them. They are angry with themselves for ruining their lives and the lives of their loved ones. During the 12-step program, they must emphasize more forgiving themselves.
The 12 traditions of AA coupled with the 12 steps can help meeting members overcome the above discussed negative emotions. It’s okay to have these emotions, but you must come out of them to create a positive outcome. Reeling under these emotions might make you relapse.
Let go of the negative to usher in the positive.